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From: Luisito B. Quidet
Category: Philosophy of Love
Date: 15 Nov 2000
Love has many facets in life thus, we also have the varied undersanding of it if we ahve to base it from our individual experience. My authentic experience in the romantic sense. i have the better understanding of it during the time that I have experience loving a girl. I have intense emotion for that girl. Fortunately. she became my girlfriend later. And from that moment that hse had said "yes", I become aloving person to her. I learned to give myself to her, even most of my time just to be with her. And later on I have realized that I also have to consider the condition of my girlfriend's Life. Though I have the license to hug and to kiss her, I still have the respect to what she feels. I learned not to possess her, and even to let her go if she will... I give her the freedom to be wiht her own life. I give her the privacy to grow to be a better person for me and to the other people. I have this disposition because she is important to me. And I think this is how I understand love and loving a person. You can give everyhting because you love her. You can do anything becuse you love her and after all you cvan be happy with the one that loved. In the broader sense of Love, I though we could never find precisely a bette description of love. People have been trying to say exactly what is love is all about. But still no way to find the adequate definition of this thing we feel strongly. Love possess us, it drives us, it dominates our thinking. But to say exactly what is ..it..is impossible. And I think there must be a reason behind this thing why it is impossible. I would refer this impossibility as the mystery and this myster of love lies in the nature of man. Thus, love belongs to man as a direction of his whole human person. Therefore I would say that it is a mystery but its mystery does not only lies on our nature but it lies deeper in us. It has a deeper meaning in us. Love is the most important thing and yet it is difficult to define. People say that love is a many splendored thing, love is blind that lovers cannot see, and love is all that matters. To make it specific, there are shades of love in our lives. Ther is friendship, self-love, love towards the opposite sex, love of children, love of parents, love of God, and others. And these things are intended only for man for only one man could feel love. Love is not conquest but surrender. Whether on a physical or intellectual or spiritual level there is always a forgetfulness of self. You wish for the good of the beloved, you keep your beloved form harm. I love the chord of self is betry struck to make a harmony and meaning for others.