TO MY SOULMATE

Amy L. Chaves

July 4, 2000

    I expect you to read this short article as this is dedicated to you.  But I do not expect you to like it and tell me that it is wonderful if it is not. Perhaps you can say instead that I am wonderful.  I might believe that:).

    I expect you to be your self and continue being honest to your self. But I do not expect you to be a consistently authentic human person in pursuit of absolute self honesty. That will be boring:).

    I expect you to be honest with me in most aspects whenever possible and necessary, even if it will hurt me. I will not expect you to shield me from pain when it is essential for my growth and development as a human being. I could use a good cry sometimes:).

    I expect you to question things about me, about our relationship, and about my relationship with other people. But I don't expect you to always understand me and my relationship with others. It would be nice if you can get jealous once in a while:).

    I expect you to love me for as long as I continue to be the lovable person you have learned to love. I do not expect you to love me still if I stop being the lovable being that I am now to you. That is just but fair:).

     I expect you to be faithful to me and to the love we have. But you do not have to remain true if I break your heart and shatter your dreams. In short, dump me if I become unfaithful:).

    I expect you to try to continue discovering the real person in me while I am part of your world.  I expect you to tell me truthfully when your discovery has ceased so I could learn something new and do something new for our sake. Like a new love technique:).

      I expect you to be considerate and accepting with the people who also  matter to me like my sons.  But I do not expect you to go out of your way to please them if it is not what you really want. They may  want to explore the world on their own:).

    I expect you to trust me for as long as you can but I also expect you to distrust me if I lie outright, use you, or deceive you. Serves me right:).

    I expect you to continue dreaming about our future but I do not expect you to stop dreaming of your own. Retain your chemistry, biology, photography, astronomy, and electronics:).

      I expect you to accept me for who I am and for who I can become.  But I do not expect you to continue doing so if I become somebody I am not meant to be.  Rejection can be a great motivator:)

      I expect you to continue writing those lovely letters for as long as possible.  But I do not expect you to write everyday.  Gosh! I will miss you terribly:).

      I expect you to keep thinking those "naughty thoughts" and share them with me. But I do not expect you to "actualize" all of them, just about most of them,  if and when we meet. Darn! I'm blushing again:).

    I expect you to take good care of your mind, heart, body, and soul for these are the things that I love dearly in you. But I do not expect you to lead a life where you can no longer enjoy a good drink, some naughty thoughts, loads of green jokes or the company of equally naughty friends. Just tell me what happened afterwards:)

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